I’m Never Going To Be Happy

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I’m Never Going To Be Happy

October 27, 2017 Lifestyle 9

At the rate I’m going, I’m never going to be happy. Sure, I’ll experience moments of happiness, but I will never arrive at the destination I’ve set for my personal happiness.

Let me explain.

I’ve recently noticed a phrase popping up in my vocabulary way too often: “I can’t wait.”

“I can’t wait until I have my own place”
“I can’t wait until I pay off my student loans”
“I can’t wait to get married”
“I can’t wait to own my own business”

I could write out a hundred of these. I actually say it most often to my boyfriend, because I’m missing him so much more now that I’m living back at home & he’s still living on campus. It’s difficult only seeing him every few days when we were accustomed to living just a few apartment buildings away from each other, so I find myself anticipating the future at the expense of appreciating the present.

“I can’t wait” really does seem like a harmless thing to say. It indicates excitement and eagerness for the future, and can also help to frame positive thinking about expecting a good outcome in life.
But this phrase has an insidious and limiting implication. This phrase sets a time for when I can be happy, and it’s implying that the time to be happy isn’t now.

I so clearly remember being miserable in high school. I just couldn’t wait to graduate and move on to college. I started my freshman year full of excitement, and enjoyed the new experience of living away from home for the first time. But after the first two years of college, I was ready for life post-grad. Or so I thought! I couldn’t wait to be graduated! And now that I’m graduated, I already have an even bigger list of new things to wait for to be happy.

What I know, but just need to drill into my head, is that there will always be something to look forward to. I don’t want to spend my life yearning for tomorrow instead of choosing to be content today. I don’t want to wait until I get married to be happy, because then after that, I’ll be waiting to go on that vacation, move into that nicer house, pay off that debt, have kids, then send the kids to college, have grand kids, retire- I could be waiting for happiness my whole life. There are seasons in our lives for a reason, and we need to learn how to appreciate each one for what it is.

So, I can wait. I can wait for something while still being happy with where I’m at now. I refuse to ignore the blessing sitting in front of my face only to clamor impatiently for the next one.  My challenge to myself is to start saying, “I’m so excited”, in place of “I can’t wait”. I want to re-frame my thinking, and I encourage you to do the same!

What event have you subconsciously been waiting for to happen before you’ll be happy? How can you find happiness with something you already have? Let me know in the comments below!

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9 Responses

  1. Anonymous says:

    Wow. Very encouraged by this, definitely been in a mindset of looking forward to the next season of life, or simply getting through these classes without truly enjoying where I’m at in life right now. Need to be more intentional with the people I’m surrounded with and make the most out of my time for sure.

    Thanks for sharing babe😌

  2. Christy Semsen says:

    This is true! Good thoughts!

  3. Anonymous says:

    Dont worry too much it wont be long before you are saying remember them days. Time is fleeting.

  4. Oh, boy, Juliana! This really made me think, and I admit it… cry too! I do this all the time as well. 😳 Great blog post and a reminder to enjoy and live in the present while working towards our dreams and goals for the future. 💗👍🏻

    • juliana says:

      Awww. That means so much to me Karen!! Yes, it’s always about finding the balance between enjoying now and working towards later! Thank you so much for reading and for sharing that 💗

  5. I love your blog.. very nice colors & theme. Did you create this website yourself or did you hire someone to do it for you? Plz answer back as I’m looking to create my own blog and would like to know where u got this from. thank you

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