What’s Your Speed Limit?

Imagine you’re driving a normal speed on the freeway, like 70 or 75 miles per hour. Now imagine your exit comes up & you don’t touch the brakes. Now you’re on the off-ramp, still going 75, flying through neighborhoods & traffic lights & stop signs.

I’m sure you’d never do that.

But are you speeding through life?

There are no speed limits in life, so sometimes we abuse our own limits. We push way past the appropriate speed, ignore the warning signs in our life and blaze through red lights without even realizing the consequences until we get that speeding ticket in the mail. For some of us, that ticket comes in the form of a doctor’s bill after our health deteriorates. Maybe you start forgetting important appointments, lose some of your hair, or you make a huge mistake at work.  

Everybody’s different, but nobody escapes the kickback of unmanaged stress from flying through life without taking care of themselves.

Let me start by saying that some situations require us to operate at lightning speed. We have to learn to adapt to that in order to cope with life’s challenges! But it’s all too easy to forget how to slow back down. I know I find myself rushing everywhere- choosing the shortest line at the store, weaving through traffic, and sometimes even cutting conversations short- but for what? And more importantly, at what expense?

The value of time is underrated.

Our society glorifies money and status, but what are either of those without the time to use them?

The thing is, many of us are operating out of a mindset of scarcity. We perceive that we don’t have enough of anything- enough time, enough energy, enough money, etc. So we move at full speed to make up for it. But I believe the problem isn’t really a lack of time, it’s a lack of priorities.

Even if there were 30 hours in a day, I still believe we “wouldn’t have enough time”. Why? Because we are encouraged to over-commit, and we often fail to set boundaries! (Speaking from experience.) 

I am NO expert in this. In fact, I am one of the worst people at time-management that I know- and that’s one of the main reasons why I’m writing this!

So here is my reminder to us all- stop sprinting through life. You weren’t made to go that fast!! Whether you are a bored college student with no homework or an overworked mom with 4 kids- you can slow down. You can do it. I don’t care if you have to lock yourself in your room & put on a movie for your kids instead of playing with them like you normally do (call me & I’ll come babysit, my treat!), or if you have to skip class and take a nap, or if you have to spend extra money on a massage (self-care, am I right??). You are still a good mom, you are still a good student, you are still a capable person. Prioritize your time and cut something out in order to spend it more wisely. Take care of yourself by slowing down in the moments between it all.

Your time = your health & well-being.

Help, I’m Stuck In My Head


Let me invite you into my brain for a minute. I know my struggles aren’t totally unique, but I am also keenly aware that there are many people who excel at the things I am terrible at. Hopefully, someone reading this can give me some advice!!

To start, I’ll give you some context. I am introverted (the technical definition of an introvert is someone who “recharges” by being alone, and loses energy by being around others) but I love people. This provides an interesting but frustrating paradox in my life- I want to be around people, but I’m always scared of losing all my energy in order to socialize. I’m not exaggerating when I say I am  e x h a u s t e d  after social interactions. I hate typing this out because it makes me sound like an old scrooge who hates people. Which isn’t true!! But something has helped me come to terms with this a bit more. I’ve recently learned a lot about myself through a personality test called The Enneagram (take the test here). If you didn’t know, I’m obsessed with personality tests, and this one is my latest obsession. Through this test, I am identified as a Type Five- “The Investigator”. That means I’m the “Intense, Cerebral Type: Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated”.

…..sounds like the life of the party, right? Ha! Getting the test results made me feel like an evil nerd with some secretive plan who locks themselves in their basement all day. For a while, I was like “…… why am I not more fun??” But in actuality, this test made me feel very, very understood. It pointed out certain truths for me that helped me understand why I am the way I am. For one, it made me feel less guilty for having such a hard time being around others. Type Fives have limited energy, and once we run out, it’s not good. When I hit my max capacity for social interaction I find myself fleeing the scene with an urgency similar to when you’re looking for the bathroom after a strong coffee. (Sorry, too much?) It helped me identify that spending time with people is a big sacrifice for me because of how much it takes out of me. Part of why it’s so draining is because I live most of my life in my head. I have crazy stuff going on in there all the time! And when I’m with others, I am required to not only figure out which thoughts to share, but also to actually share them- which is difficult. Isolation is a key quality of my “type”.  I can spend an entire day by myself and never get bored!! I can sit alone for hours and be perfectly entertained by my thoughts. It makes the internet even more dangerous too, because I research endless topics and give myself even more to think about (Another characteristic of a Type Five is our obsession with collecting facts and information). When I have to get out of my head, it’s a challenge. Which brings me to my main point.

I am stuck in my head! I have an incredibly difficult time putting ideas into action, and part of this is because of my crippling perfectionism. I’m the person who will write something out on a post-it note and re-write the exact same thing on several more post-it notes until I like my handwriting enough. I literally have multiple drafts of POST-IT NOTES. Hopefully that gives you a good idea of the severity of my situation. On a few of occasions, I’ve succeeded with getting an idea into motion and actually carrying it out. But man, I am slow. For the most part, things take me a long time. I procrastinate because I’m afraid of doing things poorly. And when I do take a crack at something, I often nix it before it even has a chance. Like the video I recorded the other day and then deleted instead of posting. Or the countless blog posts sitting in my documents that I just won’t publish. I have ideas for songs, museums, tv shows, stores, apps, art, books, and LOTS more. I have SO many ideas, but they all feel stuck in my head.

I know this is a mental obstacle for me to overcome, and I recognize that there are ways for me to get out of my comfort zone and accomplish more. I’m not making excuses for myself. I’m just sharing something that I have a feeling more people relate to than I realize. And I have a sneaking suspicion that some of the happiest, most successful people are the ones who got over whatever hurdle that kept them from making their ideas into a reality. I’m still on my way, but I’ll get there! I’m 22 and I don’t pretend to have it all figured out. Most days, I’m hard on myself for all these shortcomings. I’m really good at picking them out! But I also have to say, I’m thankful for the gifts and abilities I’ve been given. I am more than my procrastination, perfectionism, and anxiety. I’m more than my limited amount of energy and tendency to hide out. According to my “type”, I am also insightful and curious. I am “able to concentrate and focus on developing complex ideas and skills.” I am “independent, innovative, and inventive.” At my best, I am a “visionary pioneer, ahead of my time, and able to see the world in an entirely new way.”

I am all these things, and more! Today I am celebrating the small victory it was for me to write this in one sitting and actually publish it the same day. Thanks for reading along!

(All information about The Enneagram and Type Five is cited from www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-5 )

(If you’ve never heard of The Enneagram, I AM URGING YOU to take this test!! It’s been one of the most helpful and insightful tools in learning more about myself as a person. You will not regret looking into it! There’s a whole world of information about it, too- books, podcasts, Instagram accounts, and tons more.)


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The Wedding Advice I Didn’t Need To Hear

A recurring theme in the wedding advice I received while planning my big day was something along the lines of, “Just be prepared for something to go wrong! It will still be wonderful, but know that something bad will probably happen!”

My dad actually said to me, “It might rain, or you might break your leg the day before! And if you had to walk down the aisle in a cast, that would just be a fun memory!”


…..A fun memory!?!?!!?!?!?!

HE ACTUALLY SAID THAT!!!!!!!! The fact that it was an attempt to comfort me makes it even more unbelievable!! Haha! 

He meant well, and so did everyone else who gave me similar advice preparing me to expect something traumatic on my wedding day. I’m all for realism, and I think it’s a good idea to be logical about it all, but nothing actually went wrong. 

I spent all this time wondering what thing was going to go wrong at my wedding, and it was wasted time- because nothing did. And even if something bad happened, there was no way for me to anticipate what it would actually be in advance. I know that not all people are fortunate enough to experience such a seamless wedding. But it got me thinking. Do we think about all of life this way?

 It’s like we sabotage our plans before we even put them into action. We let worry steal our joy before we even have anything to worry about. What if we stopped expecting the worst, and started expecting the best?

I know why I don’t think positively. It’s because I subconsciously protect myself from disappointment. I don’t want to get my hopes up only to be let down. I don’t want my pride to take a hit when others see that my confidence ended up being shot down. But that’s wrong. It’s wrong and it’s not worth it to think like that. I don’t want to live my whole life preparing for something to go awry. Yes, bad things happen, and when they happen we take it one day at a time. But good things happen too. And what’s even more awesome is that we can create good things in our lives. We can’t control everything that happens in life. But we sure can control our thoughts. We can choose to expect the best!! And more importantly, we can cover our hopes & dreams in prayer.

I’m working on this every day, and Devon really helps to be my accountability partner. It’s easy to get discouraged when you’re just starting out chasing your dreams. But the Bible tells us that “death and life are in the power of the tongue”. So we know that what we speak- not necessarily out loud, but in our head- is so important. So I’m ready to replace “something will go wrong” with the knowledge that nothing has to go wrong, and the hope that things will go right. 




Three LA Dinner Date Options- French Edition

    If you know Devon and me, you know that we take going out to eat very seriously. We LOVE trying new restaurants as a couple, probably a little too much. We even keep a list of all the restaurants we’ve tried out…it’s a bit excessive. But on a more serious note, I will forever be appreciative of how intentional Devon is about taking me out on dates. Going out to nice dinners always makes me feel incredibly special, and I’m so thankful to have a best friend for life who shares my love of good food!

    In this article, I’m sharing reviews from three different French-inspired restaurants Devon has taken me to. Gentleman, put these on your list for your next special occasion dinner date!


    An otherwise ordinary street in the heart of Downtown LA boasts a hidden gem situated in the skyline. Perch is a rooftop treasure, combining excellent cuisine with tasteful Parisian trendiness. The decor is ornate but affords a sophisticated atmosphere, pairing velvet upholstered couches with live music and a decidedly socialite nighttime clientele. To get here, you must first locate an unassuming lobby with little to no indication that an exclusive experience awaits on the other side of an elevator ride. In addition to the seductive secrecy of Perch, versatility is one of its finest qualities. You can confidently come to Perch for casual brunch, a cocktail outing, or an upscale date night. The unrivaled view offered here makes Perch a coveted destination for Los Angeles residents and visitors alike.

(If you try this place out, PLEASE order the mac & cheese. It’s infused with truffle & peppered with bacon- I dream about this mac & cheese!!!! )


    The simplicity of Cafe Beaujolais offers a traditionally romantic atmosphere lavished in French allure. Flickering candles swathe this open space in sultry light, setting the perfect mood for couples of all ages. Enjoy your momentary transportation to France, as servers with thick accents take your order and present genuine French dishes bursting with distinct flavors. Cafe Beaujolais hides away in Eagle Rock, humbly providing some of the most authentically European food in Los Angeles. Save some money on airfare to France, and opt for Cafe Beaujolais instead- you won’t be disappointed!

(We came here for Valentine’s Day and enjoyed their three-course Valentine’s special. I chose the apple tart for dessert, and it was absolutely phenomenal. Also, if you can spot it, there’s a piece of French bread on my plate in the first picture- the bread here is FANTASTIC. Small detail, but an important one. Bread is a great indication of a restaurant’s attention to detail- if overlooked, bread can easily be cold, crunchy, or stale. When a restaurant brings out fresh, warm bread, I expect good things right off the bat.)



    Gorgeous marble flooring & high ceilings provide an immediate impression of grandeur and luxury at Bottega Louie. The open layout of the restaurant allows guests the option to view and choose from an eye-catching array of trademark French desserts in glistening glass cases. The option to customize a box of house-made macarons remains a staple attraction here, and the beauty of sunlight in this pristine space makes for a great daytime pastry run! On the other hand, Bottega Louie holds its own as an impressive dinner spot that emanates opulence. The servers maintain professionalism to the extreme, and each dish is carefully crafted. If you’re looking to make your date feel special, look no further.



Devon & I loved all three of these spots! Have you been to any of them? If so, what did you think?

What I Wish I Knew When I Graduated College

I’ve finally figured it out. After months of uncertainty, confusion, and overall anxiety about what to do with myself post-grad, I have realized what’s actually going on here.

I am nearly positive that all adults are getting together at some huge annual convention where they collectively (and secretly!!) decide to pretend they know what they’re doing!! Even if they have no idea!! I’m currently waiting to be invited to one of these meetings.

For real though, the moment I realized we’re all just “winging it” was a huge relief. As the end of my college career approached, I naively assumed that when I graduated, things would immediately fall into place. I genuinely believed that within a few months, some fantastic opportunity would fall out of the sky directly into my lap. I thought that a couple of job applications would result in an awesome, fulfilling job.
So when a few months passed and that didn’t even come remotely close to happening, I felt a deep sense of failure. I felt like I was stuck in a cloud of anxiety that obscured all truth and direction from my life.

I wish someone had told me that it would feel really strange to graduate. I felt out of place, left out, and lonely. Many times I wondered if it had even been worth it for me to work so hard to graduate a whole year early and in turn, feel completely isolated from my friends. I felt like I graduated with grandiose ideas, but then just floundered in anxiety and uncertainty for months. I waded in negativity instead of focusing on all the amazing blessings in my life.

The reality of life is that things take much longer than you think they will, and probably much longer than you want to wait. It took me a while to get this, but I am finally understanding just how important it is to take the pressure off of myself, be patient, and be okay with figuring things out along the way.

Nobody ever gets an instruction manual or a map of where they should go. Can you imagine if there were some life map where everyone had a different colored line to follow like a subway line for their life? Like Google Maps but for life decisions instead? That would be awesome. But actually, that wouldn’t be awesome.

The unpredictability of life is what produces character in us. Challenges are what make life meaningful, and without them we would miss out on the deepest kinds of joy. Like the joy that comes when you finally reach a higher understanding and feel like a light has turned on and reached the darkest corners of your pain, or the joy that comes wrapped in sorrow, or the joy that comes from the best surprise of your life. The uncertainty of the future reminds us that we are not on earth to chase pleasure. We are not here to idolize happiness or money or success. We are here to live with purpose and grow every day. And not knowing where we’re going humbles us and helps remind us of the insatiable yearning we all have, deep down, to live a life of meaning.

I think we all walk around with anxiety weighing on our shoulders. We buy into the lie that we have to get everything perfectly right, and we end up taking on incredible stress about it. We hold onto our plans with white knuckles and melt down when things don’t go according to that plan. It’s probably going to feel uncomfortable and even unproductive, but letting go of your timeline and accepting God’s timeline is the best thing you can do for your anxiety.

I’m trying to remind myself this every day. It’s a daily challenge for me, but I know that giving up control actually leads to freedom.

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I’m Never Going To Be Happy

At the rate I’m going, I’m never going to be happy. Sure, I’ll experience moments of happiness, but I will never arrive at the destination I’ve set for my personal happiness.

Let me explain.

I’ve recently noticed a phrase popping up in my vocabulary way too often: “I can’t wait.”

“I can’t wait until I have my own place”
“I can’t wait until I pay off my student loans”
“I can’t wait to get married”
“I can’t wait to own my own business”

I could write out a hundred of these. I actually say it most often to my boyfriend, because I’m missing him so much more now that I’m living back at home & he’s still living on campus. It’s difficult only seeing him every few days when we were accustomed to living just a few apartment buildings away from each other, so I find myself anticipating the future at the expense of appreciating the present.

“I can’t wait” really does seem like a harmless thing to say. It indicates excitement and eagerness for the future, and can also help to frame positive thinking about expecting a good outcome in life.
But this phrase has an insidious and limiting implication. This phrase sets a time for when I can be happy, and it’s implying that the time to be happy isn’t now.

I so clearly remember being miserable in high school. I just couldn’t wait to graduate and move on to college. I started my freshman year full of excitement, and enjoyed the new experience of living away from home for the first time. But after the first two years of college, I was ready for life post-grad. Or so I thought! I couldn’t wait to be graduated! And now that I’m graduated, I already have an even bigger list of new things to wait for to be happy.

What I know, but just need to drill into my head, is that there will always be something to look forward to. I don’t want to spend my life yearning for tomorrow instead of choosing to be content today. I don’t want to wait until I get married to be happy, because then after that, I’ll be waiting to go on that vacation, move into that nicer house, pay off that debt, have kids, then send the kids to college, have grand kids, retire- I could be waiting for happiness my whole life. There are seasons in our lives for a reason, and we need to learn how to appreciate each one for what it is.

So, I can wait. I can wait for something while still being happy with where I’m at now. I refuse to ignore the blessing sitting in front of my face only to clamor impatiently for the next one.  My challenge to myself is to start saying, “I’m so excited”, in place of “I can’t wait”. I want to re-frame my thinking, and I encourage you to do the same!

What event have you subconsciously been waiting for to happen before you’ll be happy? How can you find happiness with something you already have? Let me know in the comments below!

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Today, I Choose Fear

Apparently, something happens when you start taking risks.
Living boldly become easier- almost even addicting, as time goes on.

Successful people have been saying this for a long time now: “Do one thing a day that scares you.”

Despite the numerous benefits boasted by those who take these risks, I don’t have enough hands on which to count just how many times I’ve heard this advice and done absolutely NOTHING about it. Anyone else?

It’s a great idea in theory- but in practice? Much more difficult.
Most days, I stay safe in the bubble of my comfort zone, thinking about all the awesome things I could be doing if I just put myself out there.

I’ve spent much of my life living in fear. I am prone to anxiety, and frequently deal with fear from various made-up scenarios in my head. It’s actually ridiculous. I’ll see an instagram post about a pregnancy announcement and then spiral into panic about the fact that one day in the very far future, I will be giving birth!!! Ridiculous. My brain is fun like that. But most of the time, I’m worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet and probably will never happen. If I’m going to be scared about some obscure hypothetical situation anyways, why not take a meaningful risk and be scared about that? There is nothing wrong with fear itself. The problem comes from allowing yourself to live in obedience to fear.

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So today is a day that I have chosen fear. Today is a day to do something that scares me: start a blog.

I have been a DEDICATED journaler since I could write. These are just some of the journals I’ve filled up over the years!

I’ve grown to rely on writing as a means of catharsis, and have gotten through some of the most difficult events of my life by writing through them. I feel that it’s time I start sharing more of my ideas, even though it scares me.

Here are some reasons why this scares me:

  1. I’m sensitive, and even just the thought of negative feedback sends me into a panic.
  2. I’m a relatively private person, and prefer to keep most things to myself.
  3. I care too much about what people think of me.

Here are some reasons why the above reasons do not matter:

  1. If I live in fear of rejection my whole life, I will ultimately reject the life God wants me to live.
  2. “The value of emotions comes from sharing them, not just having them” (Quote by Simon Sinek). I have significantly benefited from the vulnerability of others, and want to be a part of that.
  3. I will not let my life be dictated by the fear of other’s opinions.

I think everyone experiences these fears, but not everyone overcomes them. I don’t want to live my life in the shadows of my dreams anymore, so if you’re reading along, thanks for being a part of my risk, however small it may be!

What risk can you take in your own life today?