Let me try & catch you before you say something mean to yourself about how you look, because we all have those days.
Did you forget that your body has a purpose other than looking beautiful?
In fact, out of the list of things your body has on it’s to-do list, looking attractive is probably at the very bottom of the list. If your body is successfully pumping blood to your heart, taking in oxygen to your brain, and performing basic functions such as breathing, I think you can forgive it for getting bloated after that bagel. There are functions our bodies carry out every second that far surpass the importance of aesthetics.
I forget this every single day. Instead of being thankful that I can walk, I complain that my legs are too big. I’m actually amazed at how ungrateful I am. There are people who don’t have working legs-or any legs at all- and here I am, upset about being able to pinch fat on my thigh.
This type of thinking is difficult to combat, because it’s encouraged by our society. We are continuously sold the idea that happiness awaits on the other side of an eyebrow wax, weight loss, or a botox treatment. We are manipulated into hating ourselves, because if we were all satisfied with our bodies, we would put a lot of companies out of business.
I consistently struggle with body image, and I know most other women do too. I think we are deeply afraid of being rejected on account of our imperfections. The fact is, we all have flaws, but those flaws don’t make us any less lovable. When someone loves you for your heart, they will find beauty in the things you hate about your appearance. This is something that my boyfriend, Devon, really taught me- he helped me see myself with more grace by showing me a love that is unfazed by physical flaws.
Now, my strategy is to acknowledge my flaws, but realize that there are much more important things to focus on. Like the fact that I can walk, dance, hear, kiss, feel emotions, and taste. I can have amazing experiences because of my body- I can even make another person with my body! I can live in my body. Our bodies were made to carry out functions, and we should appreciate them more for that. It’s a daily struggle to fight against negative thinking. But I try to remind myself that the purpose of a body is not to look beautiful. The purpose of a body is to be a vessel through which we experience life.
This is a topic I’m very passionate about, and have been for years. During my senior year of high school, I wrote a song about my struggle with body image, and then filmed & edited a music video about it. It was the first thing I ever filmed, and the project meant a lot to me! You can watch it below: